Monday, 8 December 2014

Solution Focused Thinking

SolutionFocused Thinking

As discussed before, our normal and first reaction to a situation that upsets us, is to think emotionally, such as - why me!  Not again! I can’t believe this!

We sometimes get paranoid or reflect inwardly thinking this is our fault, if only I hadn’t done………….

We sometimes become critical of others, remembering other things that may have happened.

Sometimes it is just blind rage!!

If we have worked together already, you will also know that this reaction has been created because one of your core values had been crossed or you are being forced due to an internal personality driver to cross a core value.

If we are talking about conflict resolution or anger management, we need to take a stepped approach.

1. Recognise the issue and NOT react.

2. Possibly take time out to do Logosynthesis, mindfulness and breathing exercises.

3. Look at solution focused questions - shift from thinking ‘me’ to thinking resolution.

4. Consider;

Put yourself in their shoes – why has this happened/motive? Do your very best to understand with logic. Don’t second guess maybe ask if necessary?

What is the impact?

Who can take responsibility to make a change?

What is the suitable action / who should take that action?

Take the action, or agree the action suggested by others.

Inspect what you expect.

Thursday, 9 October 2014

Catch up with Friends.

When did you last spend quality time with your Friends?
If the answer is several weeks ago, or worse still 'I can't remember'.
Call up a Friend and arrange to spend some time together.
Dont let Friendships slip into the background of your life,no matter how busy you are.

Wednesday, 11 June 2014

The Benefits to your body of having an alkaline PH level

How to Get Your Body in an Alkaline State

One of the many things I discovered during my quest to build a bionic immune system is that cancer flourishes in an acidic environment. Studies have shown that in a pH slightly above 7.4, cancer cells become dormant - and at a pH of 8.5 cancer cells will die while healthy cells will live. Maintaining the proper pH balance is also vital to preventing many other diseases and for general health. Also, people state that they feel physically and mentally better when their body is more alkaline.

Human blood must remain in a very narrow pH range (7.35-7.45) under all circumstances. If the pH ever varies from this range, cells stop functioning.

Fortunately the body has mechanisms in place that keep the pH in this safe range. One such mechanism is to extract alkaline minerals such as sodium, potassium, zinc, iron, and calcium from tissues, organs, bones, ligaments, and muscles. This keeps the blood pH stable but is not good for general health since the levels of these vital minerals can be lowered to an unhealthy degree. Moreover, when the body tissue becomes even somewhat acidic within the allowed range it creates a burden on the liver, kidneys, and heart and therefore stresses every cell in the body.

Acid-forming foods and stress create an acid residue in the tissues and organs that builds up over time and result in what people refer to as having an acidic body. Such a condition is a breeding ground for bacteria, viruses, and cancer. Fortunately there are many ways to completely reverse this problem, but only if you are aware of it. Thus it is important to test your body for excess acidity.

Dangers of pH Imbalance in the Body

As mentioned above, the risks of having an acidic pH are numerous:

  1. The body is unable to properly absorb vitamins,minerals, and supplements
  2. Cardiovascular problems can result.
  3. Causes immune deficiency.
  4. Stressed liver function.
  5. Low energy.
  6. Tumor growth.
  7. Yeast fungal/overgrowth.
  8. Can contribute to rheumatoid arthritis, diabetes, lupus, tuberculosis, osteoporosis, and high blood pressure.
  9. Lowers body's ability to repair damaged cells.
  10. Speeds up the aging process and makes a person look and feel older

How Do you Test the pH Balance in Your Body?

The pH scale ranges from 0 (highest acidic) to 14 (highest alkaline). A pH of 7 is considered neutral. The goal is to reach a reading higher than 7. The easiest way to test the PH is with a urine or saliva test that can be purchased at most pharmacies or health food stores. When using the saliva test make sure you don't eat or brush your teeth 30 minutes prior to the test, and make sure to swallow a few times before testing. The urine test is generally lower in the morning and gets higher in the evening so try to test twice a day. Read the instructions and match the results to the chart on the container. Be aware that the results can change throughout the day for any test, so measure it once in the morning and once in the evening and look for an overall trend.

How Do you Create a Perfect pH?

If you found the results from the urine test or saliva test were not optimal, the good news is that you can completely alter your body's pH by making a few simple changes.

  • Eliminate acidic beverages such as soda, alcohol, coffee, processed fruit drinks, and energy drinks.
  • Eat foods that are alkaline forming. It is of no surprise that this requires a diet with a heavy concentration of fruits and vegetables and little or no processed foods. Examples of alkaline forming foods are raw spinach, figs, mangoes, and almonds. Some examples of acidic forming foods are alcohol, caffeine, poultry, pasta, and cranberries. Here is a comprehensive list of foods to eat and foods to avoid.

The following website gives 74 examples of alkaline forming foods

This article was not written or researched by me - but by a woman who has survived breast cancer and spent her time researching and studying nutrition.
The subject is however of growing importance not only for illness but general health and wellbeing.

Monday, 9 June 2014


Motivation is about being able to see clearly then end result and more importantly, how you will benefit.

Chocolate and ice cream are very good examples of the 'instant fix' we will receive once we get hold of some!!

However, some goal are less instant and far more difficult to remain focused on.
So, what can we do?

There is a 7 stage process that involves knowing your core values, your beliefs and being able to envisage the new you in the future.  -   if you struggle to move from one to another, your goal may need to be re-assessed.

1.    Environment - Where and when will your goal happen?

2.    Behaviour - In what way will you behave differently when you have achieve    your goal?  

3.    Strategy/Capabilities - What plans do you need to put in place to achieve your goal?
          Do you and those around you have the capabilities?

4.    Values - Does this goal match with your personal values?

5.    Beliefs - What beliefs do you hold that will help you achieve your goal?

6.    Identity - Who will you be when you have achieved your goal?

7.    Higher purpose. - Where does your goal fit in the larger scheme of things ?

Wednesday, 21 May 2014

Asking yourself the right questions to find the solution ???????

Asking Yourself solution focused questions

Our ability to produce intelligent solutions to complex problems is a direct result of our ability to ask useful questions about that problem. So it is not thinking per se that we need to be good at, necessarily, although this helps too, but asking smart questions.

Are you paying attention to the kind of questions you are asking about the problem?
 You can run any subject through these questions, career, relationship, weight loss or conflict.

The idea is to answer both sets of questions and compare the notes afterwards to see for yourself what effect it can have. It’s really interesting what comes up! 

The first set of questions, are the types that we often unconsciously ask ourselves. We do it by habit, in our everyday moans. These questions are unhelpful; they do not allow us to focus on solving the problem – they actually focus on the problem thus escalating it.

The second set constructively direct our focus towards the solutions. The information that these set of questions dig up contain the solution to the actual problem.

1. Questions that keep us stuck:  

"What's wrong?"

“How does it make me feel?”

"Why do I have this problem?"

"How long have I had it?"

"Whose fault is it?" 

2. Solution Focused Question

"What do I want, specifically, (instead of the problem)?"

“What will I see when I have what I want?”

“How will it feel, exactly, to have what I want?”

"How will I know, specifically, that I have it?"

"In what ways will my life improve?"

"What small thing could I do today to bring me closer to improving the situation?"