Tuesday, 10 February 2015

What is Life Coaching?

Over the years many people have asked me ‘so what is a life coaching’?
Luckily and to save me always talking about my passion, the magazines are full of articles that are in fact just that ‘Life coaching’
In a way coaching is different things to different people, some wish to enhance their workplace skills and performance, others wish to be able to feel and be more confident maybe address some low self-esteem feelings.
At a performance level coaching will enable you to focus, set appropriate goals and remain motivated. At an emotional level coaching will help you to understand yourself, your feelings and enable you to manage your reactions to stress and negativity .Remain positive and emotionally in control, building up an emotional resilience and plan a fulfilling happy life.
Who is likely to benefit from Coaching?
Well just about everybody who wishes to enhance their life and make the most of this one time opportunity. Maybe it is like knowing how the engine of your car works, or the ingredients in a recipe – if something isn’t quite right you have a good idea of how to make it better.
I have worked with people from all walks of life; they have come to me for a huge variety of different reasons. A young Lady wishing to prepare herself for University interviews, a chap having just been terribly hurt after the breakup of his relationship and wanting to not only get it right next time, but improve himself as a potential Husband, A young Lady Doctor experiencing massive stress in the workplace, struggling to say no and ending up doing all of the jobs while others laughed and joked having a great time.
Work life balance, low self-esteem, lacking in self-confidence, stress, struggling to say ‘NO’, feeling angry, fearing imposed changes. These are all very good reasons to feel unsettled and unhappy and also very good reasons to spend some time with a life coach.
So how is all of this done?
Generally you would start with a wheel of life, this basically breaks life in 10 different section and encourages you to score yourself in each section. A good place to start, because immediately you can see the lowest scores and any connections plus this potentially would be the areas to focus on.
Throughout your coaching it would be you who does the thinking and planning, your Coach is a facilitator, asking questions and posing scenarios that will make you think, finding the best answer for you from with-in.
From your wheel, I would ask you to consider ‘what would increase your score’? Trying to be realistic and avoid saying to win the lottery!!!!!
You’ll start at this point to keep a goal sheet.
We will then start looking at your core values, this is your personal emotional footprint – your core values if satisfied will bring you to a happy settled place , if crossed can make you feel angry, unhappy even depressed.
Once we have established you core values, we will set about looking at the action and activities that Honour or satisfy those values. It is logical that if you can do more of the things that deeply satisfy your sole, then you will be becoming a happier person. Likewise if you learn to avoid the things that cross your core values, you will be taking control emotionally and managing any stress or anger as a result.
We will also look at your ‘personality driver’ some people are big pleasers, others perfectionists – our work together will help you to understand which one of the five is your strongest at the same time the positive points of each type and of the development areas.
Both the core values and the personality drivers will give you thoughts and ideas to add to your goal sheet for future planning.
When you are armed with your full set of core values, drivers and goals sheet, we will start to work with your motivation and visualisation to be able to cement your desire to achieve your plans. Small tasks will be set along the way to prove that you can do it, we will also examine any beliefs that you hold that may limit your behaviour and the plans we are putting into place .No need to have anything holding you back!!!
If this is something that you fancy embarking upon, I would suggest that a typical coaching programme would be around six sessions, which possible would be over a six week period one session a week. The gap in between sessions gives you chance to work on the exercises and think about the changes that you wish to make.
Face to face, phone or skype are the norm, however on-line or blended learning is becoming popular, this method of coaching is via email personalised modules plus the opportunity to ask and be asked further questions.
To find out more please contact me on 07900197411 or by email niki@nikichalkley.com

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